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This is part of dating locations most men did not think about. Men are usually focused on finding a date during the nightlife, but the question is what do you expect to find there? In the nightlife almost everyone wants to party and have a good time.

Drinks flow, the music is exiting and the atmosphere sparkling, why shouldn’t you go on date hunt here? Because, every woman who goes out at night expects to be approached by some guy, who is probably drunk and unless he is very good looking or/and got plenty of Game will probably be rejected. It’s great to have a fun time and party, and you might end up with a girl on your side, but you have to work hard for it. There are better places to start at.

The setting

A Café is a great place to start a conversation. It’s not too loud, people are there to either have a conversation, meet other people, have a cup of coffee, relax, in short, just to spend some good time with too many thought ahead. You will find plenty of couples and people interacting with each other. The advantage is that opposing to a night setting there is not much alcohol involved and you can actually get to know a real person instead of some drunk party affair that you will regret later on.

How to approach

There are many ways to start a conversation in a café, you can try to use quotes from famous persons, or you simply approach people and ask them for a seat at their table to join the conversation. Try to find something easy and light and start from there.

Examples:

• The whole cafe is empty, only 2 beautiful girls sit at one table, at least 4-5 tables are free next to them. “Hi, this whole spot is so crowded, let me sit down at this table.” Grab a chair with a smile and join the conversation. In case they are offended be smart and funny. Look at them in a weird way and say something like, “What you don’t see the other people?” Raising your eyebrow and smiling. Just make them laugh a bit so they know you are a fun time and not afraid to approach them.
• A crowded café is usually an easy place to start a conversation, you just have too look for tables with an empty seat and join them. Be nice, smile and have some fun. Try to join the conversation, just start with a “Hi, it’s more crowded than last summer sale at the black sock grabbling table. You can’t imagine how cheap bankers are… feel like inviting me to a coffee?”

No-No’s at a Café

• Don’t buy a drink to a stranger. It’s simply bad to start a conversation and offer them something for that in return. Rather try to get them to pay your bills.
• Don’t drink alcohol to overcome your approach anxiety, it will backfire in most cases.

The next steps

After approaching someone your main goal should be to either get a phone number or email address. Just have some great conversation and show some genuine interest in some parts of the conversation that will lead to a connection. Don’t rush, but don’t stay to long. It’s usually better to have some nice smalltalk, leave great impression and be the first to leave. Just say “Hey, I got to go, this was a great time, what’s your email so we can repeat this once in a while and we can meet again. You seem to be cool and I imagine you’d make a nice friend.”

There are things to talk about and places you could arrange a date that day if everything is going well. Be creative and just have a good time. It’s not about getting a date, it’s about enjoying what you are doing and getting to know people.