You are save at home!

You are in your own home, comfortable and have no need to fear anything. That’s great, because what most people look for is someone who is comfortable in his own skin. So in case you are comfortable in your own home, you should be able to write and talk easily.

You can think about everything before you answer!

You can ALWAYS wait when you receive a message and say you did not have to time respond. Even with Instant messengers, which are usually very quick with responses, you can always let people wait to spark some sort of attraction. And then get to them at a later point and say, damn I had to leave, was something important… blabla, just to display some social status and that you have a life besides the computer.

You don’t have to be available every time

In case you look to meet people, you can just send out a few dozens messages, those can even be the same to every person you find interesting, and wait for responses. In case you get none, tweak the message, in case you get a few, get into contact with those. In case you get a lot you know you have done it right and you can select who YOU think is interesting after their message. It’s important to stand out of the crowd, but most people get this the wrong way, you have to display value, which means that your time is expensive. Who are you to write 4 page letters to some unknown? That’s pretty creepy.

Trial and Error is your friend!

This is great with online dating, there are free services, there are paid services, you can just create an account with some nickname at one place, create another account at some other place with a different nickname and just test out which techniques are working.

Don’t hesitate!

Don’t wait to check out if online dating is something for you. Just start out and create a fun user profile at some site and think about a great letter. Some ideas for this are:

“Why is someone at on online dating site, posting fake pictures because you are scared outside?”

“Oh there seem to be so many desperate people here, still you look like you could make a nice friend.”

In case someone wrote about the age and is older/younger tease them with that. “Oh my, I can’t believe I am writing this to you, you seem so young but interesting…” or “Geee, I can’t believe I write this, but I wonder if you have the energy to keep up with someone younger than you…”

Create a few standard messages for different types of women and sent them according to the profile picture you see. (Age, Hair Color, clothing, cartoon avatar… be creative)

There are zillions of ways, don’t limit yourself to one, just test the waters and see what works for YOU. You can just head over to Lavalife and join them for free!

Online dating sucks because right now it’s just a strain. It’s like looking through job applications to find whatever you are looking for. The profile just differ due to the look of the picture attached to it. Then how many fakers are out there? How many of those profiles are real? And then the magical question, how do you approach them?

Today there is one easy way to approach online dating. It’s called speed mailing, you make up one funny and interesting text and send it to every woman you find interesting and wait for her response. It’s a great time saver. Get over the write to every woman you see and respond to their profile. Everyone is doing that. Besides you don’t want to waste your time to write hour after hour without a result. The real way to go is speed dating. Write your letter to every woman and wait for THEIR action. Get a fun to read profile and you will see this works wonders.

This is getting a little bit away from the actual topic you say, OK then we’ll cover the different aspects of Online Dating in one of the next articles. Right now we get to the point and why online dating will suck in 2020…

It’s pretty easy, Online Dating then will be one big video game. In case you want to see the online dating of the future go for a round of a big massive multi-player online role playing game. You will pick avatars, walk through rooms and interact with people. This really makes no sense at all.

After you get to know someone in such a game add video streaming and you get to talk for “real” with whom you interact. Ha, but then you could go out and meet people. It’s the same. Online dating of the future will be… a fake. Just another virtual reality.

Probably it can be a fun time, just as a video game can be fun, it’s hard to deny that, but ultimately the way to go should be mastering meeting people in the real world. It’s easier, will cost you less money due to no monthly fees and will actually entertain and give you stories for the future. Online stories are made for the moment, after a few years you usually have forgotten most of the stuff that was important for you then, a great and funny date can be something to remember for your whole life. Instead of the limited virtual experience that will repeat over and over.