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Online Dating and is a great way to meet new people, in case you use it to an addition to your everyday flirts and contacts you make. Don’t think that online dating will cure you in case you have no clue about what to talk about or even how to talk with women once they are around. Still Online Dating and meeting people in the Internet is great to start off!

You are save at home!

You are in your own home, comfortable and have no need to fear anything. That’s great, because what most people look for is someone who is comfortable in his own skin. So in case you are comfortable in your own home, you should be able to write and talk easily.

You can think about everything before you answer!

You can ALWAYS wait when you receive a message and say you did not have to time respond. Even with Instant messengers, which are usually very quick with responses, you can always let people wait to spark some sort of attraction. And then get to them at a later point and say, damn I had to leave, was something important… blabla, just to display some social status and that you have a life besides the computer.

You don’t have to be available every time

In case you look to meet people, you can just send out a few dozens messages, those can even be the same to every person you find interesting, and wait for responses. In case you get none, tweak the message, in case you get a few, get into contact with those. In case you get a lot you know you have done it right and you can select who YOU think is interesting after their message. It’s important to stand out of the crowd, but most people get this the wrong way, you have to display value, which means that your time is expensive. Who are you to write 4 page letters to some unknown? That’s pretty creepy.

Trial and Error is your friend!

This is great with online dating, there are free services, there are paid services, you can just create an account with some nickname at one place, create another account at some other place with a different nickname and just test out which techniques are working.

Don’t hesitate!

Don’t wait to check out if online dating is something for you. Just start out and create a fun user profile at some site and think about a great letter. Some ideas for this are:

“Why is someone at on online dating site, posting fake pictures because you are scared outside?”

“Oh there seem to be so many desperate people here, still you look like you could make a nice friend.”

In case someone wrote about the age and is older/younger tease them with that. “Oh my, I can’t believe I am writing this to you, you seem so young but interesting…” or “Geee, I can’t believe I write this, but I wonder if you have the energy to keep up with someone younger than you…”

Create a few standard messages for different types of women and sent them according to the profile picture you see. (Age, Hair Color, clothing, cartoon avatar… be creative)

There are zillions of ways, don’t limit yourself to one, just test the waters and see what works for YOU. You can just head over to Lavalife and join them for free!

This is part of dating locations most men did not think about. Men are usually focused on finding a date during the nightlife, but the question is what do you expect to find there? In the nightlife almost everyone wants to party and have a good time.

Drinks flow, the music is exiting and the atmosphere sparkling, why shouldn’t you go on date hunt here? Because, every woman who goes out at night expects to be approached by some guy, who is probably drunk and unless he is very good looking or/and got plenty of Game will probably be rejected. It’s great to have a fun time and party, and you might end up with a girl on your side, but you have to work hard for it. There are better places to start at.

The setting

A Café is a great place to start a conversation. It’s not too loud, people are there to either have a conversation, meet other people, have a cup of coffee, relax, in short, just to spend some good time with too many thought ahead. You will find plenty of couples and people interacting with each other. The advantage is that opposing to a night setting there is not much alcohol involved and you can actually get to know a real person instead of some drunk party affair that you will regret later on.

How to approach

There are many ways to start a conversation in a café, you can try to use quotes from famous persons, or you simply approach people and ask them for a seat at their table to join the conversation. Try to find something easy and light and start from there.

Examples:

• The whole cafe is empty, only 2 beautiful girls sit at one table, at least 4-5 tables are free next to them. “Hi, this whole spot is so crowded, let me sit down at this table.” Grab a chair with a smile and join the conversation. In case they are offended be smart and funny. Look at them in a weird way and say something like, “What you don’t see the other people?” Raising your eyebrow and smiling. Just make them laugh a bit so they know you are a fun time and not afraid to approach them.
• A crowded café is usually an easy place to start a conversation, you just have too look for tables with an empty seat and join them. Be nice, smile and have some fun. Try to join the conversation, just start with a “Hi, it’s more crowded than last summer sale at the black sock grabbling table. You can’t imagine how cheap bankers are… feel like inviting me to a coffee?”

No-No’s at a Café

• Don’t buy a drink to a stranger. It’s simply bad to start a conversation and offer them something for that in return. Rather try to get them to pay your bills.
• Don’t drink alcohol to overcome your approach anxiety, it will backfire in most cases.

The next steps

After approaching someone your main goal should be to either get a phone number or email address. Just have some great conversation and show some genuine interest in some parts of the conversation that will lead to a connection. Don’t rush, but don’t stay to long. It’s usually better to have some nice smalltalk, leave great impression and be the first to leave. Just say “Hey, I got to go, this was a great time, what’s your email so we can repeat this once in a while and we can meet again. You seem to be cool and I imagine you’d make a nice friend.”

There are things to talk about and places you could arrange a date that day if everything is going well. Be creative and just have a good time. It’s not about getting a date, it’s about enjoying what you are doing and getting to know people.